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Karen Moore's avatar

One year I gave up cream in my coffee. Made it 3 days and then found myself standing in front of the coffee pot, full cup of coffee with cream in hand feeling guilty but knowing I should still give up something, so I gave up guilt and enjoyed the coffee. The powers of rationalization are mighty.

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after years of abstaining from alcohol, I noticed that 'giving up booze for Lent' had become invisible and routine. Not supportive of a deepening faith & practice. Now what I do for fasting is attempt to stay mindful and eat only what my body needs to stay healthy. It's the mindful part that seems to matter. 'Why am I pounding down handfuls of almonds? or this pint of salted caramel ice cream? Let's not do this now.' It was/is definitely the case that I had defined a food as 'bad' -- blaming the food for tempting me or beating myself for succumbing.

A practice that has been useful for the past 3-4 years has been to choose either the sheep & goats parable in Matthew 25: 34-36 or Matthew's beatitudes and daily or more sit with a phrase and the question 'how am I doing this work of love?' Too often the answer is 'I'm not' or 'I'm doing it just enough to feel virtuous.' But sometimes I can honestly see ways I'm in ministry or practice that I hadn't noticed. Honest self assessment sometimes leads to a new practice, and I can trust that it comes from a call, not relentless self-improvement or at least guilt.

I have really found the community Rule that you shared to be very helpful, and I'm thinking of using it for daily reflection this Lent.

wishing you surprising discoveries in whatever you choose to do!

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